HOW TO HAVE THE FAMILY YOU’VE ALWAYS DREAMED OF – PART 3

th#3 –  BE the Real Deal – Because They’ll Become Who You Are

Our children become who we are, not what we tell them they should be.

Reality is, we are our kid’s first glimpse of God so what we do is just as important as what we say.  When our kids see us, they need to see Jesus. How they perceive us is how they will perceive God. 

If we’re angry all the time, they see God as angry. If they can never achieve enough, they get a B and you think they should have gotten an A – then they will see God as someone who is impossible to please.

I always felt loved by my Dad.  I knew I was his little girl.  However, at the same time I always felt like I never quite measured up no matter how hard I tried.  I was an only child and I’m not sure if the fact I was a girl disappointed him or what.  I just always was haunted with the feeling I wasn’t good enough,  I remember one time I got all As and he asked if my school gave A+s.  I must admit I struggle to this day with the fear that God sees me as not measuring up.

Our job is to train, model, coach and be an example in qualities like faithfulness, forgiveness, respect for authority, honesty, responsibility, and gratefulness.

Training is instruction and demonstration with a specific result in mind.

Our intended result is seeing that the character of Christ is formed in our kids, and that they have a personal relationship with Him and  learn how to make wise life choices.

I think this passage from the Message says it so well.

‘So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.’ Romans 12:1-2 msg

As parents and leaders, we are influencing everyone we encounter.  Someone is watching our life.  The question is not am I influencing someone?  It’s how am I influencing them?

When we first became Christians our best friends thought we were crazy and just on another hair-brained wild one.  Over the next 3 years we saw them now and then and always showed them the love of Jesus, but didn’t preach at them.  Finally Debbie agreed to go to church with me an during one of the songs fell into my arms sobbing as she accepted Christ.  They had watched us those years and saw that the changes God had made in us were real.  They both came to Christ and follow Him to this day.

That’s the power of influence and being genuine.  People are watching you.  Your kids are watching you.  That does not mean you have to be perfect. But you should be growing in the right direction. You should always be improving yourself, reading, listening to teachings, serving, spending time in God’s presence, and keeping yourself stirred up in the Lord. When you do these things, you’ll find you initiate the butterfly effect.  The Butterfly Theory was developed by Edward Norton Lorenz a mathematician and meteorologist who was on of the first to propose the chaos theory. Lorenz speculated that if a butterfly flapped its wings in South America it would effect the weather in Texas.  This is how our influence effects our kids the small things we do or don’t do, good or bad, have huge ramifications on their lives.   Live like their lives depend on it, because they do.

 

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S. Courtney Lawson Writer and speaker Sandy Lawson recently hit two Amazon.com best-seller lists with the new business book, "Transform," co-authored with best-selling author and speaker Brian Tracy. Sandy Lawson serves as a Care Pastor at Element Church, in Wentzville Missouri, one of the fastest growing churches America. Sandy recently joined noted business development expert, best-selling author and speaker, Brian Tracy, along with a select group of the world's leading experts, to co-author the book titled, Transform: The World's Leading Entrepreneurs and Professionals Get to the Heart and Soul of Transforming your Life, Business & Health. The book was released on September 18, 2014 by CelebrityPress™ - a leading business book publisher. On the day of release, Transform reached best-seller status in two Amazon.com categories - reaching as high as #6 in the "Direct Marketing" category. The book also reached best-seller status in the "Marketing and Small Business" category. Sandy contributed a chapter titled, "The Relationship Transformation...Taking Relationships From Terminal to Transformed." Sandy Lawson has over 30 years of experience partnering with her husband, Kip, in family ministry and outreach. She's had the privilege of serving on staff at three mega churches prior to Element Church. In addition, she and her husband also had the honor of building the bus ministry of the Oneighty Youth Group at Church on the Move in Tulsa, Oklahoma from 400 riders weekly to nearly 1,500 riders each week. Her biggest joy is coaching people in their personal relationships and helping them reach their God-given potential. She and her husband have helped hundreds of couples turn failing marriages into happily-ever-afters, as well as assisting parents in their quest to create healthy thriving families. In their career, Sandy and her husband have been a major influence in the lives of thousands of children, teens, and adults around the world. Sandy is the mother of three, and the grandmother of eight wonderful grandkids. She and her husband have been married over 46 years. She is the author of a parenting book, "Parenting Through the Mirror" which explores the concept that great parenting must begin with personal transformation. She is also the author and illustrator of a children's geology book, "Iggy and the Volcano" that teaches kids the cycle of igneous rocks. Sandy is a freelance writer, speaker, blogger and was a major contributor to an internationally distributed children's curriculum. After such a successful release, Sandy Lawson will once again be recognized by The National Academy of Best-Selling Authors™, an organization that honors authors from many of the leading independent best-seller lists.

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