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The Truth About Lies

Green Fence and Blue SkyModeling integrity at every level is critical to your parenting arsenal.  As a Children’s Pastor, I found that the besetting sin of most children was lying.  They will look you right in the eye and lie and not even blink an eye.  In our post Christian culture, it has become acceptable and normal to pepper our conversations with “white lies,” stretched truthfulness, and outright bold faced lies.

Have you ever told your kids to tell someone you’re not there when they called you at an inconvenient time?  You just taught your kids that it’s okay to lie if it keeps you from being inconvenienced.

How about those special family traditions like the man in the red suit?  Dare we?  Do your traditions include the jolly fat guy or the furry deliverer of eggs?  I know for many these are almost sacred traditions.  Would you be offended if I said these are not just harmless fairy tales?  I have nothing personally against either Santa or the Easter Bunny, but I do have a concern when we teach them to our children as “truth.”  The truth is, you’re telling them a lie.  Have you ever looked at it from your child’s perspective?  If you would deceive them about Santa and the Easter Bunny, in your child’s mind might you be deceiving them about a man who died 2,000 years ago to take away their sins?

As Christians, we are to rightly divide the word of truth.  If our children can’t trust our word, who can they trust?  I remember how devastated and betrayed I felt when I found out the Easter Bunny and Santa were mere myths.  I was crushed.  Wouldn’t it be so much easier to be honest with them on the front end, spare them the heartbreak of finding out the truth, and retain your integrity in their sight?

We always had fun with our kids on these holidays without loss of our integrity. We hid eggs, we had gifts, we had it all  . . . except the myth. Plus, we pointed them to Jesus in all things.  Remember the real significance of these holidays, a holy God left his throne in heaven to take the punishment that we deserved, and offered us the gift of eternal life, forgiveness of sins, and the honor of becoming the son or daughter of the King of Kings.  What fairytale could possibly surpass that?  Don’t settle for a shallow shadow when you can have the real thing.

The bottom line is as in all areas of parenting it all starts in the mirror.  You model the standard you want your kids to hit and hopefully exceed.  There may be areas where you need to ask your family’s forgiveness for your lack of truthfulness.

Green Fence and Blue Sky


S. Courtney Lawson Writer and speaker Sandy Lawson recently hit two best-seller lists with the new business book, "Transform," co-authored with best-selling author and speaker Brian Tracy. Sandy Lawson serves as a Care Pastor at Element Church, in Wentzville Missouri, one of the fastest growing churches America. Sandy recently joined noted business development expert, best-selling author and speaker, Brian Tracy, along with a select group of the world's leading experts, to co-author the book titled, Transform: The World's Leading Entrepreneurs and Professionals Get to the Heart and Soul of Transforming your Life, Business & Health. The book was released on September 18, 2014 by CelebrityPress™ - a leading business book publisher. On the day of release, Transform reached best-seller status in two categories - reaching as high as #6 in the "Direct Marketing" category. The book also reached best-seller status in the "Marketing and Small Business" category. Sandy contributed a chapter titled, "The Relationship Transformation...Taking Relationships From Terminal to Transformed." Sandy Lawson has over 30 years of experience partnering with her husband, Kip, in family ministry and outreach. She's had the privilege of serving on staff at three mega churches prior to Element Church. In addition, she and her husband also had the honor of building the bus ministry of the Oneighty Youth Group at Church on the Move in Tulsa, Oklahoma from 400 riders weekly to nearly 1,500 riders each week. Her biggest joy is coaching people in their personal relationships and helping them reach their God-given potential. She and her husband have helped hundreds of couples turn failing marriages into happily-ever-afters, as well as assisting parents in their quest to create healthy thriving families. In their career, Sandy and her husband have been a major influence in the lives of thousands of children, teens, and adults around the world. Sandy is the mother of three, and the grandmother of eight wonderful grandkids. She and her husband have been married over 46 years. She is the author of a parenting book, "Parenting Through the Mirror" which explores the concept that great parenting must begin with personal transformation. She is also the author and illustrator of a children's geology book, "Iggy and the Volcano" that teaches kids the cycle of igneous rocks. Sandy is a freelance writer, speaker, blogger and was a major contributor to an internationally distributed children's curriculum. After such a successful release, Sandy Lawson will once again be recognized by The National Academy of Best-Selling Authors™, an organization that honors authors from many of the leading independent best-seller lists.

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