Posted in Leadership, Parenting

My New Parenting Tool

This one was literally over 20 years in the making! I started writing it when my kids were teenagers and set it aside until I felt compelled to pick it back up a few years ago.    I am excited and honored that my good friend Jim Wideman wrote the Forward.  His wisdom alone is worth the price of the book!

I hope you find this a handy tool for your parenting arsenal.  It was written with the busy parent in mind in short devotional style chapters with helpful tools at the end of each chapter.  Whether your kids are 6 months or 60, the truths in this book will improve every relationship in your life beginning with your relationship with yourself.

Available at amazon.com and barnesandnoble.com

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Posted in Encouragement, Leadership, Success

God of the Counter Intuitive – Part 1

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Recently, as I was preparing for a teaching on parenting, I was reminded how counter intuitive our God is. Years ago, I wrote four paradoxes in the front of my Bible. These 4 Paradoxes hold the Keys to Success for every area of endeavor. The question is, are we willing to go cross-grained to all that seems logical in our own mind to get to a success where everyone wins?

The first mind-altering statement . . .

We gain by losing

“For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will save it.” Luke 9:24

Some brilliant leaders have discovered this concept and incorporated it into their leadership teachings. One of my favorites follows:

“You can have anything you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want out of life.” Zig Ziglar

This philosophy is a slap on the face of our “take care of number one” culture. Our mind says, “If they win, that means I lose.” Jesus says we should put others first.

So, which philosophy when applied actually works?

I’m taking a challenge for the next 30 days to deliberately put others first, and I hope you’ll accept this challenge as well. Kind of like Myth Busters, we’ll find out whose philosophy is right, only our results will make an eternal impact.

Try making a list of all the things your boss wants to achieve, the house they want to live in, the car they want to drive, or the vacation they’d like to take and commit to working for them to achieve their goals. Or how about putting your husband or wife first . . . novel concept. What friend needs a win? How about your kids? There is a whole hurting world out there. Find someone and help them achieve their dreams. Sometimes what they need most is for someone to believe in them when they can’t  believe in themselves.

The life you change may be your own. This is renewing your mind in brick and mortar.

Next time, we’ll look at another one of Christ’s counter intuitive statements. In the meantime, let me know how it’s going.

Posted in Parenting

Generation Under Seige

Today, we face the most devastating epidemic ever to sweep our planet.  It costs us more each year in dollars and lives than any plague in the history of mankind.  Tragically, unlike AIDS, the cure is simple and effective and can be found in the pages of the Bible, yet the plague continues to grow day by day, year after year, generation upon generation.

Beginning with Dr. Spock’s book in 1946, there has been a trend toward permissiveism in parenting styles.  It’s become more about how your child feels than who your child becomes.  There are  somewhere around 22,200,000 books and articles you can purchase that claim to contain expert advise on how to raise your child.   The question is what is the source of their “expertise”?

If your car is broken, you take it to a mechanic who gets out the Manufacturer’s Repair & Maintenance Manual, reads how to fix what’s wrong and then does it.  What would happen if you took your car to a mechanic and he pulled out a cookbook?  “I’m sorry,” he’d say, “I can’t seem to find your problem, that will be $100.”  Would you take your car back to him the next time it broke down?  And yet, we practice this very same exercise in futility so often in our daily lives. “Oh no, you say?”  We do it every time we allow the world to offer solutions to our daily problems, particularly in the areas of human relationships and the family.  All we need to do when we are experiencing a breakdown (problem in our life) is to get out the Manufacturer’s Repair & Maintenance Manual (The Bible), and do what it says.  If God created us, surely He knows what it takes to keep us up and running properly.  Yet. it is so tragic that so few opt to take this easy cure.  And so the epidemic of divorce, heartbreak, and rebellion continues to spread at a maddening pace.

“For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.”   Ephesians 6:12

It is up to us as parents to rise up and say “Enough is enough!” The truth is we live in a duel world which is both spiritual and physical at the same time, and while there are very real spiritual forces at work, we must be careful not to use them as a scapegoat.  The best starting point is to give credit where credit is due, in reality, most of our problems are more likely based in our own selfishness and a lifetime of false filters that alter our world view, than in a spiritual attack. However, there is no mistaking that we are in the midst of a great battle for our homes and families. We must purpose in our hearts to put our families and our homes on the firm foundation of God’s Word and keep our priorities right.  It is our only hope of survival.

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Posted in Encouragement

Realigning Yourself

Has your car ever gotten out of alignment? You find you’re constantly fighting the wheel just to stay on the road. Driving becomes exhausting, not to mention the wear and tear on the tires. And if you let go of the wheel for even a split second your car starts edging off the road.

Well, I was driving down life’s highway and somewhere I got “out of alignment.” But recently I had an epiphany that if you believe what others think of you, that is who you will become. It was an “ah ha” moment – there was my misalignment. I’d given others permission to define my value. Talk about giving power to others!

If you’ve done this, take your power back, now! As parents and leaders it is our responsibility not to let the opinions of others shape who we are. Here is the most important reason why. Those who follow us become like us. It is up to you to chose to stop the madness.

Here’s the good news, you don’t have to find yourself. You simply need to look to your Manufacturer and into His Manual to find that God has already defined who you are. You are accepted. Ephesians 1:6 You are forgiven. Colossians 2:13 You are righteous. 2 Corinthians 5:21 “For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.” It is already a fact, done, finitio, end of subject! There is nothing you can do, say, or think to be any more loved, any more accepted, or any more righteous than you are right now.

Don’t let anyone steal your destiny. God has a great plan for you. He believes in you even if not one other person on the whole planet does.

So how do you experience this realignment? Meditate on the Word, especially Phillipians 4:8, if you’re like me and your mind can take a world tour of “worst case scenarios” in 60 seconds or less. Find a promise in the Word and chose to believe it is for you. There are 7,000 of them, surely you’ll be able to find one. Then personalize and speak that promise. Just do it! No matter how you feel today. Just do it! No matter what your circumstance tells you. Just do it! No matter what your Eyeore friends say. Just do it! Your thoughts will either set you free or keep you captive. You get to choose.

Are you willing to let go of how you see yourself to become who God says who you are?

Posted in Leadership, Success

Sharing The ACN Vision

I am so excited about this!  This is a great leadership growth experience.

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I spent some time yesterday with a group of ACN IBOs working with Circle of Champions member Al Thomas.  This is by far one of my favorite things about my role here at ACN – sitting down with IBOs and sharing the vision of ACN’s exciting future and listening to their experiences.

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Fred 2.0 A Must Read

Ever feel like you’re just a face in the crowd with an average job and average life? This book will change all that for you. In Fred 2.0 you’ll learn the secrets of turning an average existence into a truly fulfilling and rich life. You don’t have to change locations or vocations to be spectacular.  It all started with a mailman named Fred who made an extraordinary difference in the lives of all the customers on his route. If you are one of the millions of Freds, I promise this book will light a passion in you that you haven’t experienced in a long time, because you’ll learn how to take ordinary and make it extraordinary. Mr Sanborn reminds us that life is what you make it. If you need a shot in the arm or maybe a good old-fashioned kick in the pants, this book will inspire and challenge you to be all you can be.41zepCKh6uL._SL160_PIsitb-sticker-arrow-dp,TopRight,12,-18_SH30_OU01_AA160_