The Eric Trap

I just finished a great leadership fable called The Eric Trap.  It comes out today – the latest effort by Jim Wideman, Sam Luce, Kenny Conley and Jim’s Infuse 2.2 team.

This is a must read for anyone in leadership, whether you’re a seasoned pro or a novice, the stuggles Eric deals with in this engaging tale will be relatable and relevant no matter where you are in your career.  You’ll discover five keys every leader needs to get right artfully woven into a compelling tale about Eric Newman a children’s pastor who almost lost it all because he just didn’t get it. Prepare to get your priorities adjusted and your life in balance.

What About The Easter Bunny & Other Beloved Myths?

What are your traditions? Do they include the jolly fat guy or the furry deliverer of eggs? I know for many these are almost sacred traditions. Would you be offended if I said these are not just harmless fairy tales? I have nothing personally against either Santa or the Easter Bunny, but I do have a concern when we teach them to our children as truth. The truth is, you’re telling them a lie. Have you ever looked at it from your child’s perspective?  If you would deceive them about Santa and the Easter Bunny, might in your child’s mind you be deceiving them about a man who died 2,000 years ago to take away their sins? As Christians, we are to rightly divide the word of truth. If our children can’t trust our word, who can they trust? I remember how devastated and betrayed I felt when I found out the Easter Bunny and Santa were mere myths. I was crushed. Wouldn’t it be so much easier to be honest with them on the front end, spare them the heartbreak of finding out the truth, and retain your integrity in their sight? We always had fun with our kids on these holidays without loss of our integrity. We hid eggs, we had gifts, we had it all  . . . except the myth. Plus, we pointed them to Jesus in all things. Remember the real significance of this holiday, a holy God left his throne in heaven to take the punishment that we deserved, and offered us the gift of eternal life, forgiveness of sins, and the honor of becoming the son or daughter of the King of Kings. What fairytale could possibly surpass that? Don’t settle for a shallow shadow when you can have the real thing.

Take Time

I found this and thought it would encourage us all to refocus through all the noise of our everyday busyness.  Thank you Mr. Author Unknown.

Author Unknown

Take time to laugh
It is the music of the soul.

Take time to think
It is the source of power.

Take time to play
It is the source of perpetual youth.

Take time to read
It is the fountain of wisdom.

Take time to pray
It is the greatest power on earth.

Take time to love and be loved
It is a God-given privilege.

Take time to be friendly
It is the road to happiness

Take time to give
It is too short a day to be selfish

Take time to work
It is the price of success.

Building the Next Generation

Just got back from Tulsa where I met my newest Grandchild, Clark.  He is adorable and cuddly, two of the best qualities ever.  As I held him I realized that I was holding another of generation #3.  My husband and I were the first in our family to get saved, all our children serve God, their spouses serve God, and their children serve God.  I believe with all my heart that Clark will follow Jesus when he’s old enough.  It’s Kingdom multiplication.  Kip and I = 2 + 3 kids +3 spouses = 6 + 7 grandkids = 15

This equation makes me happy about my new book “Parenting Through the Mirror.”  There are 3 secrets of parenting: teach the Word, do the Word, live the Word. Our kids become who we are.  Luckily for our kids they became something better than we are, and I believe that their kids will be better yet.  From glory to glory!

What Is It That Stumps You As a Parent?

We all have areas where we feel, “I’ve got this down.”  But, are there any areas that you’re saying, “I don’t have a clue?”  Let’s talk about them here.  You can send questions to  Parenting is more of an art than a science.  Every child is different and while there are some universal “laws” of parenting, you have to approach each child as an individual.  Like snowflakes, no two kids are alike.  What worked with Erik, would have crushed Heather’s spirit.  Every child is a mystery that you have to solve in order to be an effective and loving parent.  This requires hours of prayer and a lot of time taking long looks in the mirror.  The acorn never falls far from the tree.  So, what areas make you smile and which ones make you want to tear your hair out?

Follow Me As I Follow Jesus

“Children are looking for someone who will stand up and say, “Follow me as I follow God.” Parents should strive to be leaders that are examples to their children. Jim Wideman in Connect with Your Kids

Our children come to us as a blank slate and it’s our job to etch God’s destiny for them into their hearts. I learned early on that children become what we are and not what we say. I remember sitting at the kitchen table at age 16 listening to my mother lecture me on why I shouldn’t smoke. I counted, she smoked 6 cigarettes during the course of that lecture. The impact, I got up and lit a cigarette at the end of the lecture. After I gave my life to Christ at the age of 22, that lecture scene came vividly back to my mind as I looked at my young son. Then, it hit me, if I didn’t live this thing called Christianity in front of my son, he would end up doing just what I did after my mom’s anti-smoking lecture. The gravity of my responsiblity as a parent became real to me that day. God had entrusted this child to me to bring up to follow God, and if I did not serve Him with all my heart, mind, and soul, there was a really good chance my son would not either. I remembered a saying I had heard ironically from my mom, “Our children indulge in excess what we allow in moderation.” I determined that day that I would be an example of a true disciple to my son, and then later to my other children. Today, all three of my children are in ministry and follow after God with their whole heart.