How To Have The Family You’ve Always Dreamed Of – Part 5



Our Words Have Creative Power

When God created Adam, the Creator taught the created how to create.  He said, “Adam, name the animals.”  And, whatever Adam named them, that’s what they were called.  Today, our words hold the same power, what we name things is what they become.

Here’s an example: a young man, we’ll call him Fred, is offered an opportunity.  What does Fred call it? “That’s impossible, it is way too hard.  I could never do that!”  Another young man, we’ll call him Bob, is offered the exact same opportunity.  What does Bob call it? “This is the opportunity I’ve been looking for all my entire life.  I must be the luckiest guy on the planet!  I can do this!”

Now let’s take this “Name It Principle” into our personal lives, what are you naming your relationships?

Are your kids, “Can’t you ever do anything right?” “How many times do I have to tell you?”  “Do you have anything between those ears?” “You’ll never amount to anything.”   Or do you name them, “You have amazing potential.”  “I can’t believe how bright you are!”   “There’s an amazing plan for your life that’s better than anything you can imagine or dream.”

Our words are etching themselves onto the very souls of our kids.  Their subconscious minds are gathering up every word and storing it as an impression to filter future information through.  The old saying, “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” could not be further from the truth. I don’t know about you, but I can quote verbatim hurtful words that were spoken to me 20 and 30 years ago.  It’s not that I sit around and think about them all the time, but I can pull them back up like a stored computer file if I decide to do so.  If that’s so, how much more is my subconscious effected?  Did you know that 80% of the decisions we make come out of our subconscious mind?  Make a conscious decision to think before you speak.  Take time to consider the future impact your words may have on your child’s life today, tomorrow, and 20 years from now.

This principle holds true for all our relationships, not just in our parenting.  How about your marriage, your job, your finances, what are you naming them? Here’s one to ponder, what do you name yourself?  Be careful what you say, you can rest assured you are creating something.  Make sure it is what you want.  #parenting  #leadership

How To Have The Family You’ve Always Dreamed Of – Part 4




I’ve decided that life is not that complicated. It can be boiled down to some simple principles, that when applied, optimize your chances for joy, peace, and health in every relationship in your life.

The next key is so simple it is almost laughable, but it is so simple that it is often completely overlooked or disregarded.  The problem is, what we think about shows up in our words and actions. The ripple effect is what started as a thought in our head ends up effecting the lives of others, especially those closest to us.

4.  Everything Starts with a Thought

Every great and noble thing and every lowly evil thing started with just one thought.  When that thought was held for more than a moment, it led to another, and another, until it became an attitude that expressed itself in words and actions. The good news is, we really do have the power to choose our thoughts.  So how do we choose our thoughts on a practical level?  Again, this is going to sound ridiculously simple.

Simple Keys to Change Your Thinking

  1. Use your own words, attitudes, and feelings as a red flag that it’s time to check your thoughts.
  2. Stop and think about what you’re thinking about.
  3. Ask, “How do my thoughts line up with the Word?” Then, if needed . . .
  4. Chose to think thoughts that line up with the Word.
  5. Do it again, and again, and again . . .

When we apply these simple principles we will see remarkable changes both in ourselves and those around us.  I heard an amazing story the other day that illustrates the negative power of our thoughts as it relates to parenting.

There was a father who for no apparent reason did not trust his teenage son.  When his son asked to borrow the car, the father thought he’d make it hard on the boy by giving him an early curfew thinking he’d get out of lending him the car.  He said “Okay, you can use the car, but you have to have it home by 10:30 p.m.”   To the father’s surprise, the boy agreed.  All that evening the father thought about how he was sure the boy would be late and what he was going to say to him.  The closer it got to the curfew the angrier the father got imaging his son out there doing all sorts of evil things.  By 10:15 p.m. he was fuming. At 10:29 p.m., the boy came rushing through the door announcing proudly that he had made it.  Instead of being happy that his son was obedient.  He mumbled, ” You cut it pretty close didn’t you?”  Then, went on to ask if he put gas in the car.  In all this, the boy had done nothing wrong, Yet the father by his thoughts had decided his son was disobedient at best.  The boy was sent the message that he didn’t measure up.  The father missed an opportunity to encourage and build confidence in his son, all because he didn’t control his own thoughts.

“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” Romans 12:2 msg

How do you choose your thoughts?


When Bad Things Happen to Good People



We live in a world where things happen that honestly on this side of heaven we just don’t understand. I can’t tell you the number of funerals I’ve attended where the speakers eloquently pontificates on how God took the deceased because He needed him to tend His garden.  However, this directly contradicts Scripture.  If you follow this line of logic, you’d have to reach the conclusion that God kills people.  In John 10:10, we are reminded that,  “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.”  James 1:17 continues this thought when it says, “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning.” The truth is, we live in a fallen world and bad things do happen even to good people, but God is a good God and does not send bad things our way.

This idea that everything that happens is caused by God, is known in the church as the Sovereignty Doctrine. The word “sovereign” is not used in the King James Version of the Bible. When it is used in other translations, it is always used in association with the word “LORD” and is the equivalent of the King James Version’s “LORD God.” Not a single one of those times is the word “sovereign” used in the manner that it has come to be used in religion in our day and time.

4 Simple Steps To Lose Your Joy



Don’t you hate it when you lose something important? If you’re like me, you’re always losing things – keys, money, notes, glasses, your Bible, umbrella, and how about the most frustrating thing we lose…the TV remote control! Then, there are other less tangible things that we lose – our temper; our patience; our memory; and possibly most importantly, our joy.

And losing things can really mess up your day. So, if joy is a fruit of the Spirit, how in the world do we lose it?

Here are 4 simple steps to losing your joy – guaranteed.

  1. Refuse to forgive.  In the words of Goob from Meet the Robinsons, “Don’t let it go!”  Hold onto the bitterness until it turns into a venom that eats away at the very core of your soul. Just keep blaming the other guy, you’re the victim here!

2. Think negative thoughts.  Forget all that Philippians 4:8 stuff, you’re a realist after all.  Just let any thought that floats through your mind rattle around and snowball into a torrent of negativism.

3. Let your circumstances dictate your feelings. Grab onto the bar of that emotional roller coaster and ride baby ride.  And maybe the best way of all . . .

4.  Allow the busyness of life to cause you to chose the good over the best.  Say yes, to every activity that comes your way and fill your calendar up every minute of every 

day. With all this busyness, who has time to read the Bible much less pray?

I promise, you will have the opportunity to fall into all these traps, and if you take the bait, you’ll find your spiritual tank empty and your joy dried up.

Remember the words of Nehemiah 8:10, “The joy of the Lord is our strength.”  May you find your joy and strength in Him.


Evernote and goal-setting



This week is important for your 2015.

If you’re like most, the New Year marks a great time to reflect and reset.

It’s a time when we can craft a plan for making 2015 our best year ever.

The problem is, you and I both know that the average “plan” just doesn’t work.

FUN FACT #1: Did you know that the average person sets the same New Year’s resolution 10 times!

FUN FACT #2: After just one week, a full 25% of people have already given up on their New Year’s resolutions.

Crazy right?

That’s why this week (Tuesday specifically) is a significant date for you.

Michael Hyatt’s course called 5 Days To Your Best Year Ever will change the “average” outcome. It’s designed to help you get clear and actually accomplish more of what you really want.

The reason Tuesday is important is because he just announced ANOTHER extra gift for anyone who purchases before Tuesday at midnight.

It’s called the Goal Tracker System and it works seamlessly with Evernote.

In it Michael shares:

* 3 reasons why Evernote is a better goal-tracking solution than more robust, dedicated applications. (Remember: “Complexity is the enemy of execution.”)

* 2 simple tricks for using Evernote to keep your goals visible, so you don’t fall victim to out-of-sight-out-of-mind syndrome. This is the #1 reason people fail to achieve their goals.

* 4 click-by-click steps for setting up your personalized Goal Progress-tracking System (GPS). You can watch him do it on-screen, then do it yourself.

* An importable Evernote template you can use to track your key motivations, next actions, progress reports, and random notes for each goal. Simply double-click on the included file and start

So if you’d like to have your best year ever, I recommend you go register for the course while the Evernote Goal Tracker System is still available.

All the best.


P.S. The Evernote Goal Tracking System bonus will expire on Tuesday (December 30th) at 11:59pm PST so make sure you register today and get the extra goodies :)

Modeling the Gift of Giving to Your Kids



Over the holidays, we can get so caught up in the hustle bustle that we can forget the true meaning of exchanging gifts.  I don’t think we should take lightly the giving of gifts; it is far more than an annual obligation.  It’s so much more . . .

3 Powerful Insights About Giving Gifts You Can Model for Your Kids

1.  It takes your eyes off yourself and on to someone else.

“You should remember the words of the Lord Jesus: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.” Acts 20:35b NLT

2.  You’re showing honor to those to whom you give the gift.

“They entered the house and saw the child with his mother, Mary, and they bowed down and worshiped him. Then they opened their treasure chests and gave him gifts of gold,frankincense, and myrrh.”  Matthew 2:11 NLT

3.  You’re imitating Jesus who gave the gift of himself.

“For this is how God loved the world: He gave His one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16 NLT

Beyond the giving of the physical gifts, remember your gifts are giving a little piece of yourself that honors the receiver.  So this Christmas, first take time to cherish the most important gifts in your own life, your family and friends.  Then, gift them with the most important gifts you have to give . . . your time, your full attention, and your unconditional love.  Help your kids to learn to give these priceless gifts of self.  Then, help them select or make gifts from their hearts to bless and show honor to others . . . the make their day kind of gifts! That’s modeling a lifestyle of meaningful giving to your kids, and that’s a great gift in itself.


#parenting  #parentingisleadership

How to Get a Free Copy of Transform



I’ve been following Michael Hyatt for several years now and consider him to be one of the biggest mentors in my life.  He has great wisdom and insights into living a balanced and successful life.  Kip and I are loving this 5 Days to Your Best Year Ever Course.  I truly believe it will be a game changer for 2015. That’s why we’re partnering with him to share this great course. To encourage you to take a look for yourself, if you purchase the course today before midnight, and send me the receipt, I will send you a hardcover copy of the book Transform, the book I was privileged to help write.

Tonight at midnight marks the end of your Early Bird discount for the 5 Days To Your Best Year Ever course.

I’d hate for you to miss out on the savings.

The course will be available until January 8th, 2015 but the discounted rate ends tonight (Thursday, December 18th) at midnight.

So if you want to accomplish more in 2015, I highly recommend you get this today, plus, you’ll get your free copy of Transform as well. Here’s a chance to double your chances for a better 2015!